Do you feel like the world is in absolute chaos?
Whether it’s a gritty Netflix series, pending war in foreign lands or the constant buzz of deadlines, it pulls you in.
Even when you long for clam, it surrounds you.
As a woman juggling societal pressures, personal dreams, and daily stress, you’re not alone.
Let’s unravel this tug-of-war together and find a softer path to peace.
Why the Chaos Feels So Familiar
You’re a woman who values growth and balance, yet the weight of expectations sits on your shoulders.
To be the perfect professional, nurturer, or trendsetter can leave you frazzled.
Add to that the allure of violent entertainment or competitive drama.
It’s no wonder you’re distracted from the wellbeing you crave.
Recently, I read a collection of reflections titled Why Do We Love Violence?
It’s a raw look at humanity’s fascination with conflict.
One writer, Chris, admitted to enjoying a brutal Western series despite his better judgment.
Another, Charles, tied it to our “fallen nature.”
He suggests violence is a primal pull we can’t fully shake.
It hit me!
This isn’t just about entertainment.
It’s a mirror to the overwhelm we feel daily.
For you, this might show up as scrolling X for hours.
Caught in debates or drama, when you meant to meditate or journal.
It’s not your fault.
Our culture thrives on intensity.
But here’s the good news…
Understanding this pull is the first step to loosening its grip.
A Personal Thread: The Windswept Cliffs
On one of my trips to visit my root, I stopped on the island of Maui.
I stood alone on a windswept cliff overlooking the ocean.
My grown daughters new carving their own paths.
The waves crashed below, relentless and wild.
Yet the salty air felt like a balm.
Its refreshing and soothing qualities had a calming effect on my body and mind.
Much like how a balm soothes and heals.
I’d been wrestling with a restless energy.
Staying up late binge-watching crime shows.
I even thought my soul begged for quiet.
That cliff became my turning point.
I realized I’d been chasing chaos to avoid facing my stillness.
I decided to weave spirituality into my days.
Not as an escape, but as a grounding force.
Like the cliff holding steady against the storm.
The Present Impact: Violence as a Distraction
The document’s voices-Chris’s shame, Charles’s philosophy, DK’s grit-reveal a truth.
Violence, whether in sports or stories, often distracts us from what matters.
Today, women face a unique twist.
Trends show us seeking “spiritual anchors”-not just compasses to point the way.
But deep roots to hold us steady amid hybrid work schedules and caregiving loads.
Research from Deloitte’s 2024 Women at Work report notes nearly half of us feel unsupported in balancing life’s demands.
With stress spiking as we juggle more.
Violence, even as entertainment, amplifies this by keeping us wired instead of rested.
Crafting Your Calm: Spiritual Anchors in Action
Imagine your life as a tidal pool.
Sometimes turbulent, sometimes serene, but always teeming with potential
Here’s how to anchor yourself:
- Pause with Purpose: Swap one nightly scroll for a “cliff moment”—step outside, breathe, and listen to the wind. It’s not about grand rituals. It’s about reclaiming your space.
- Reframe the Pull: When chaos calls, ask, “What am I avoiding?” Journal the answer. It’s a small act of compassion toward yourself.
- Root in Ritual: Light a candle each morning. Whisper a hope for the day. This tiny spiritual thread ties you to something bigger, easing the overwhelm.
Final Thought: The Ripple Effect
Processing our love for chaos doesn’t mean shaming ourselves.
It’s about redirecting that energy.
By choosing calm over conflict, you model authenticity for others.
Whether it’s your colleagues or kids.
You’ll find stress fades when you’re no longer fighting the tide.
So, let’s step off the cliff’s edge together.
Not into chaos, but into a life that feels true and whole.
Thank you for reading.
Novena’s Pulse signing out.
