The world is loud.
The world is fast.
The world is on fire.
And yet, we keep watching. We chase the chaos.
We scroll, we binge, we lean into the noise—even when our souls whisper, Please, not tonight.
The Chaos Magnet
It’s strange how drawn we are to intensity.
Violent dramas. Apocalyptic headlines. Competitive everything.
They buzz like static in the background of our lives.
We call it entertainment.
We call it being informed.
We call it staying connected.
But often, it’s something deeper: a craving for distraction as we chase the chaos.
You’re not alone if you’ve stayed up late watching a show that left you feeling worse, not better.
You’re not alone if you check X out of habit, then wonder why your spirit feels tight.
We’re all trying to outrun something—stress, stillness, uncertainty.
It’s not your fault that you chase the chaos.
This culture thrives on overstimulation.
But you can choose something softer.
The Quiet We Resist
A few months ago, I found myself out of sync.
I’d been pushing hard—writing, caregiving, managing a hundred moving parts.
One Sunday, I wandered around our property. The air was hot and humid.
I sat on an old tree stump in the shade. Observing the tree that grew sideways reaching for the sun.
And I did nothing.
No phone. No plan.
Just the sound of leaves whispering like old friends.
That moment cracked something open.
I realized how often I’d been feeding the noise—using it to avoid my own ache.
Stillness can feel like exposure.
But it can also feel like coming home.
Why We Reach for Conflict
I’d recently read a compilation of reflections titled Why Do We Love Violence?
One writer admitted shame after enjoying a brutal series.
Another pointed to our primal roots, calling it “fallen nature.”
Another described it as grit, survival, necessity.
Each voice revealed a truth:
Violence isn’t always about harm. Sometimes, it’s about distraction.
It hijacks our attention.
It gives us something to brace against.
It keeps us wired so we don’t have to feel what’s underneath.
And for women navigating hybrid jobs, caregiving roles, and aging parents?
It’s no wonder we get pulled in to chase the chaos.
The 2024 Deloitte Women @ Work report found that nearly 50% of women feel unsupported in work-life balance.
That’s not just a statistic—it’s a signal.
We’re carrying too much, too quietly.
So we reach for noise when what we really need is nourishment.
Spiritual Anchors for Real Life
Think of your life as a tidal pool.
Calm one moment. Crashing the next.
But always full of life.
What grounds you?
What steadies your hands when your heart feels stormy?
Let’s build some anchors—small, sacred moments that bring you back to yourself.
Pause with Purpose
Instead of doom-scrolling tonight, step outside.
Even if it’s just your balcony or a patch of grass.
Let the wind touch your skin.
Let the sky hold your gaze.
This is your new ritual—your “cliff moment.”
Reframe the Pull
When you feel the chaos calling—stop.
Ask yourself gently, What am I avoiding right now?
Then write.
One word. One line.
No judgment.
Just curiosity.
Root in Ritual
Light a candle in the morning.
Say a hope aloud.
Not a goal.
Not a task.
A hope.
Maybe it’s “peace in the middle of meetings.”
Maybe it’s “remember who I am.”
Let that light be your reminder.
Rewiring the Rituals
It’s not about rejecting all drama.
It’s about choosing where your energy goes.
Try this for one week:
- Swap one violent show for a soulful podcast
- Spend five minutes listening to a natural sound
- Write one stressor + one solution before bed
- Start your day with a gratitude breath
These are not chores.
These are life preservers.
The Ripple of Your Calm
When you choose presence over panic, it doesn’t just shift your mood.
It shifts the atmosphere.
Your calm becomes a compass for others.
Your peace becomes permission.
Your softness becomes strength.
We don’t need more noise.
We need more women listening to the quiet.
So let’s step away from the cliff’s edge—not in fear, but in faith.
Let’s choose calm, over and over, until it becomes our nature again.
Thank you for reading.
Let me know in the comments why you chased the chaos and have you found your essence since?
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